More Mindlines

1. The Achievement Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm not enough / I'm inadequate
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm enough / I'm adequate
Strategy: I'll be happy when I reach my goals / prove my worth
Workshop: Overworking, constant productivity, ticking off tasks, collecting qualifications, comparing achievements
Waiting room: Alcohol to unwind, binge-watching to switch off, comfort eating, compulsive phone scrolling, online shopping
Mental Interference: "I'm so behind" / "Everyone else is further ahead than me" / "I should have done more by now" / "This isn't good enough" / "I'm wasting time" / "What have I actually accomplished?" / "I'll never catch up" / "Other people are doing so much more" / "I'm lazy" / "I need to do more"

2. The Approval Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm unlovable / I'm invisible
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm lovable / I'm seen
Strategy: I'll be happy when I'm valued/recognised
Workshop: People-pleasing, over-explaining, seeking validation through social media, performing for others
Waiting room: Social media scrolling (seeking hits of validation), alcohol, casual sex, shopping for image, comfort eating
Mental Interference: "Nobody really cares about me" / "They're just being polite" / "I said the wrong thing" / "They think I'm boring" / "Why hasn't anyone replied?" / "They're probably talking about me" / "I'm too much/not enough" / "Nobody really sees me" / "They're only nice to me because they want something" / "I'm forgettable"

3. The Control Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm unsafe / I'm vulnerable
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm safe / I'm secure
Strategy: I'll be happy when everything is sorted/under control
Workshop: Obsessive planning, list-making, micromanaging, trying to predict and prevent problems
Waiting room: Alcohol to release tension, compulsive tidying/organising, phone games, stress eating, cannabis
Mental Interference: "What if everything falls apart?" / "I can't trust anyone else to do this properly" / "Something's going to go wrong" / "I should have planned for this" / "Everything's chaos" / "I can't relax until this is sorted" / "What am I forgetting?" / "This is all going to collapse" / "If I don't manage this, disaster will happen" / "Nothing ever goes to plan"

4. The Comparison Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm lacking / I'm inferior
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm complete / I'm equal
Strategy: I'll be happy when I have/look like/live like them
Workshop: Social media stalking, lifestyle upgrading, image management, keeping up appearances
Waiting room: Shopping sprees, alcohol, scrolling envy-inducing content, revenge body efforts, gambling
Mental Interference: "Everyone has it better than me" / "Look what they've got" / "I'm so far behind everyone else" / "Why can't my life look like that?" / "They've got it all figured out" / "I'm missing out" / "Everyone else is happier than me" / "What's wrong with me that I don't have that?" / "I'll never have what they have" / "My life is so ordinary compared to theirs"

5. The Perfection Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm defective / I'm broken
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm whole / I'm fixed
Strategy: I'll be happy when I've fixed myself
Workshop: Self-improvement binges, therapy shopping, endless courses, body modification, constant self-monitoring
Waiting room: Alcohol, comfort eating followed by restriction, porn, phone scrolling, numbing out with TV
Mental Interference: "There's something fundamentally wrong with me" / "I need to fix this about myself" / "Why can't I just be normal?" / "Everyone else has it together" / "I'm such a mess" / "When will I finally be okay?" / "I'm still not where I should be" / "What's wrong with me?" / "I'll never be good enough" / "I'm damaged"

6. The Relationship Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm alone / I'm unworthy of love
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm loved / I'm partnered
Strategy: I'll be happy when I find the right person / the perfect relationship
Workshop: Dating apps, relationship advice consumption, analysing every interaction, changing yourself to be more attractive, constantly seeking "the one"
Waiting room: Casual sex, scrolling dating apps aimlessly, romantic films/novels, alcohol, fantasy and daydreaming
Mental Interference: "I'm incomplete without a partner" / "Everyone else has someone" / "There's something wrong with me that I'm single" / "I'll be happy when I meet them" / "Why can't I find anyone?" / "All the good ones are taken" / "I'm going to end up alone" / "Nobody wants me" / "When will it be my turn?" / "My life will start when I'm in a relationship"

7. The Money Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm insecure / I'm insufficient
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm financially secure / I'm wealthy
Strategy: I'll be happy when I earn enough / have enough saved
Workshop: Overworking for money, obsessing over finances, comparing salaries, side hustles, investment research, constant budget monitoring
Waiting room: Retail therapy, gambling, scrolling property websites, crypto/stock watching, lottery tickets, alcohol
Mental Interference: "I'll never have enough" / "Everyone else is doing better financially" / "I can't afford anything" / "Money is always tight" / "I should be earning more by now" / "What if I run out?" / "I'm always broke" / "Rich people have it easy" / "I'll be happy when I have X amount" / "I can't relax until I'm secure"

8. The Therapy Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm damaged / I'm broken
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm healed / I'm whole
Strategy: I'll be happy when I've processed all my trauma / understood everything
Workshop: Therapy hopping, self-diagnosis, trauma content consumption, endless journaling, analysing childhood, reading psychology books
Waiting room: Scrolling mental health content, alcohol, comfort eating, social media oversharing, numbing out with TV
Mental Interference: "I'm too broken" / "I need more healing" / "I haven't processed this properly" / "There's more work to do" / "I'll never be okay until I understand why" / "Normal people don't have these issues" / "I'm fundamentally damaged" / "When will I finally be healed?" / "Something's still wrong with me" / "I need to find the right therapist/modality"

9. The Enlightenment Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm unawakened / I'm spiritually inadequate
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm enlightened / I'm awakened
Strategy: I'll be happy when I finally get it / have the breakthrough
Workshop: Meditation marathons, teacher shopping, retreat attending, spiritual practice obsession, reading spiritual texts, comparing spiritual progress
Waiting room: Spiritual bypassing, psychedelics, scrolling spiritual content, spiritual materialism (crystals, ceremonies), numbing despite "knowing better"
Mental Interference: "I'm not spiritual enough" / "Everyone else seems to get it" / "I must be doing it wrong" / "When will I finally awaken?" / "I'm still stuck in ego" / "Real spiritual people don't struggle like this" / "I need one more retreat/teacher/practice" / "I'm so far from enlightenment" / "What's wrong with me that I can't sustain this?" / "I'll be at peace when I'm finally awake"

10. The Understanding Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm confused / I'm ignorant
Solution: I'll be happy when I understand / I have clarity
Strategy: I'll be happy when I figure this out / know the answer
Workshop: Obsessive research, information consumption, course collecting, expert seeking, overthinking, analysis paralysis, reading endless books
Waiting room: Scrolling articles/videos mindlessly, alcohol, comfort eating, getting lost in rabbit holes, podcast bingeing
Mental Interference: "I don't understand this yet" / "I need more information" / "Everyone else seems to know what they're doing" / "I'm missing something" / "If I just read one more book..." / "I can't move forward until I understand" / "Why don't I get it?" / "I'm so confused" / "There must be an answer somewhere" / "I'll figure it out eventually"

11. The Meaning/Purpose Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm empty / My life is meaningless
Solution: I'll be happy when I find my purpose / when life has meaning
Strategy: I'll be happy when I discover what I'm meant to do / what this is all for
Workshop: Soul searching, searching for calling/passion, trying different paths, existential questioning, reading philosophy, seeking signs or answers, looking for "what's missing"
Waiting room: Numbing the emptiness with alcohol, scrolling, affairs, extreme experiences, travel, shopping despite having everything
Mental Interference: "Is this all there is?" / "Something's missing but I don't know what" / "There must be more to life than this" / "What's the point?" / "Everyone else seems fulfilled" / "I should be happy but I'm not" / "Why do I feel so empty?" / "What am I here for?" / "I have everything but feel nothing" / "When will I find what I'm looking for?"

12. The Health/Body Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm unhealthy / I'm unattractive
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm healthy / I'm fit/thin/beautiful
Strategy: I'll be happy when I lose the weight / look better / am stronger
Workshop: Obsessive exercise, restrictive dieting, body checking, fitness tracking, appearance modification, wellness routines, supplement stacking
Waiting room: Binge eating, alcohol, scrolling fitspo/body content, online shopping for clothes, comfort eating then restricting
Mental Interference: "I hate my body" / "I'll start living when I'm thin" / "Everyone else looks better" / "I'm disgusting" / "I can't go out looking like this" / "When I lose the weight everything will be better" / "I'm so unhealthy compared to them" / "My body is wrong" / "I need to fix this" / "I'll be happy at my goal weight"

13. The Knowledge/Intelligence Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm stupid / I'm ignorant
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm smart / I'm educated
Strategy: I'll be happy when I know enough / am intellectually respected
Workshop: Constant learning, degree collecting, name-dropping books/concepts, intellectual one-upmanship, proving cleverness, reading to impress
Waiting room: Scrolling Wikipedia/articles aimlessly, documentaries as background noise, alcohol, intellectual podcasts without retention
Mental Interference: "I'm not smart enough" / "Everyone else is more educated" / "They'll find out I'm stupid" / "I don't know enough" / "I should have read more" / "Intelligent people know this" / "I'm intellectually inferior" / "When I understand this I'll be respected" / "I'm a fraud"

14. The Success/Status Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm a failure / I'm insignificant
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm successful / I'm important
Strategy: I'll be happy when I'm recognized/respected/powerful
Workshop: Status seeking, networking obsessively, title chasing, humble-bragging, curating impressive image, collecting prestige markers
Waiting room: Scrolling LinkedIn/industry news, alcohol, comfort eating, checking who's more successful, online shopping for status items
Mental Interference: "I'm nobody" / "They don't take me seriously" / "I should be further along" / "Everyone else is more successful" / "I'm invisible in my field" / "When I get that role/title I'll matter" / "People like them get respect, not people like me" / "I'm a failure" / "I haven't made it yet"

15. The Family/Parent Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm a bad parent / I'm failing my children
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm a good parent / my children are thriving
Strategy: I'll be happy when my children are happy/successful/well-adjusted
Workshop: Perfectionist parenting, constantly researching parenting methods, comparing children to others, over-scheduling activities, curating family image, helicopter parenting
Waiting room: Wine o'clock, scrolling parenting content, comfort eating, online shopping, zoning out to TV after bedtime
Mental Interference: "I'm ruining my children" / "Other parents have it together" / "My kids aren't where they should be" / "I'm failing them" / "Good parents don't feel like this" / "When they're happy I'll be happy" / "What if I've damaged them?" / "Everyone else's kids are thriving" / "I'm not doing enough for them" / "When they succeed I'll know I did okay"

16. The Creative/Artistic Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm uncreative / I'm talentless
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm creative / I'm a real artist
Strategy: I'll be happy when I create something worthwhile / am recognized as an artist
Workshop: Forcing creative output, comparing work to others, collecting art supplies/instruments, taking endless courses, perfectionist creating, never finishing projects, seeking validation for work
Waiting room: Scrolling other artists' work, alcohol, comfort eating, binge-watching creative content instead of creating, online shopping for materials, numbing the "I should be creating" guilt
Mental Interference: "I'm not a real artist" / "Everyone else is more talented" / "My work is rubbish" / "I'll never be good enough" / "I have nothing original to say" / "Real artists don't struggle like this" / "I'm a fraud" / "When I create something good I'll be legitimate" / "I'm wasting my life not creating" / "Everyone else is more creative than me"

17. The Expression/Authenticity Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm inauthentic / I'm suppressed
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm authentic / I'm fully expressed
Strategy: I'll be happy when I can be my true self / am free to express myself
Workshop: Identity exploration, constant reinvention, oversharing to prove authenticity, rejecting previous versions of self, seeking permission to be different, dramatic self-expression
Waiting room: Scrolling identity content, alcohol, comfort eating, binge-watching shows about "authentic" people, online shopping for new identity markers
Mental Interference: "I'm living a lie" / "Nobody knows the real me" / "I'm trapped" / "Everyone else gets to be themselves" / "I can't be authentic here" / "When I'm finally free to be me I'll be happy" / "I'm suffocating" / "I'm pretending all the time" / "My true self is buried" / "When will I be brave enough to be real?"

18. The Presence/Now Mindline

Core belief (Problem): I'm absent / I'm lost in thought
Solution: I'll be happy when I'm present / I'm in the now
Strategy: I'll be happy when I finally stay present / master the now
Workshop: Meditation practice, presence techniques, constant self-monitoring ("am I present?"), trying to stay in the now, battling thoughts, spiritual practices to achieve presence
Waiting room: Scrolling spiritual content, alcohol despite "knowing better", comfort eating, spiritual bypassing, numbing while telling yourself you should be present
Mental Interference: "I'm never present" / "I keep getting lost in thought" / "Spiritual people stay present" / "I can't maintain it" / "Why do I keep leaving the now?" / "When will I finally be able to stay here?" / "I'm failing at presence" / "Real practitioners don't struggle like this" / "If I was truly present I'd be at peace"